The Story of Alqama (رضي الله عنه) and his mother is not authentic

الحمد لله و الصلاة و السلام على رسول الله

Speakers,Khutaba, usually use this narration to show how dangerous it is to not be obedient to one’s mother.

“There is a hadeeth about a righteous man (Sahabi) who was called ‘Alqamah ; he was on his deathbed and had not uttered the kalimah (declaration of faith). Then the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) sent for his mother, who said that she was angry with him, because he used to favour his wife over her. Then after that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) gathered firewood and told his mother that he would burn her son before her very eyes. She said: O Messenger of Allah, he is my son and I cannot bear to see you burning him in front of me! The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “O mother of ‘Alqamah, the punishment of Allah is more severe and longer lasting. If you want Allah to forgive him, then forgive him (yourself). By the One in Whose hand is my soul, his prayer, fasting and zakaah will not benefit him so long as you are angry with him.” So the woman forgave her son, and after some time he died, after uttering the shahaadatayn (twin declaration of faith). The hadeeth says that after that, the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) called out to the Muhaajireen and Ansaar, saying: “If one of you gives precedence to his wife over his mother, Allah, the angels and all the people will curse him, and Allah will not accept his charity or righteous deeds unless he repent to Allah, may He be exalted, and seeks the pardon and pleasure of his mother. Allah remains angry because of her anger.”

This story is a fabrication and a lie.

See Shaikh Muhammad Salih Al-Munajjid’s answer about the very narration.

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It was also mentioned in al-Mawdoo‘aat by Ibn ‘Iraaq (2/296), ash-Shawkaani (231), and al-Albaani (no. 3183); and by Shaykh Sulaymaan al-‘Alwaan in his essay, al-I‘laam bi Wujoob at-Tathabbut fi Riwaayat al-Hadeeth (p. 16-17).

See: Qasas la tathbut by Shaykh Mashhoor Hasan Salmaan (3/19-39, no. 21)