Question:
السلام عليكم و رحمة الله و بركاته
Does a woman have sawab[Rewards] if she is patient with her husband, as in if he has a second wife? Because it gets difficult to see a husband with somebody else.
Answer:
وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله و بركاته
●Yes a lady is rewarded for putting up with patience in such a situation.
A’isha reported:
Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said: There is no trouble that comes to a believer except that it obliterates from his sins, even if it is the pricking of a thorn
(2572e, Sahih Muslim)
Aishah narrated that:
The Messenger of Allah said: “The believer is not afflicted by the prick of a thorn or what is worse (or greater) than that, except that by it Allah raises him in rank and removes sin from him.”
(At-Tirmidhi, 965)
●Being sad, depressed and troubled, yet being patient, because of a husband being in a polygamous relationship is a way for the sister’s sins to be expiated and ranks raised in the Jannah.
Narrated Abu Huraira:
Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) said, “The example of a believer is that of a fresh tender plant; from whatever direction the wind comes, it bends it, but when the wind becomes quiet, it becomes straight again. Similarly, a believer is afflicted with calamities (but he remains patient till Allah removes his difficulties.) And an impious wicked person is like a pine tree which keeps hard and straight till Allah cuts (breaks) it down when He wishes.” (See Hadith No. 558, Vol. 9.)
(Sahih Al-Bukhari, 5644)
● If a Muslim women remains patient at the strike of a calamity (polygamy is not a calamity in the deen, but our sisters take it that way) she will be aided and supported by Allah.
It was narrated from Anas bin Malik that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
“The greatest reward comes with the greatest trial. When Allah loves a people He tests them. Whoever accepts that wins His pleasure but whoever is discontent with that earns His wrath.”
(Sunan Ibn Majah, 4031)
● If a lady is tested with her husband taking a co-wife and she accepts it as a test from Allah she wins Allah’s pleasure.
● إن الله مع الصابرين…
Allah says in the Qur’an that: Allah is with those who are patient.
●[Shaikh Muhammad Salih Al-Munajjid said in Fatawa #186325 islamqa.info]
“Our advice to the woman whose husband takes a second wife is to be patient, seek reward with Allah and accept what Allah has decreed for her. No one knows where goodness lies.”
Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“…it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know”
[al-Baqarah 2:216]. End quote from the website.
●May Allah reward our brothers for practicing polygamy and our sisters for being patient with their husbands for this. May Allah guide the brothers to do justice according to the best of their abilities. Aameen.
And Allah knows the best.
25th June 2019
-Abu Muaaz Mohammed Manna
Saheehus-Seerah 